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What's Really Ruining Your Relationships (Stop Running From Yourself)
Mike Thurston
June 07, 2025
Modern relationships crash faster than they begin.
Research shows 73% of young adults report chronic loneliness despite being more "connected" than any generation in history.
Joining us this week is Diego Perez, also known as Yung Pueblo; a bestselling author, poet and philosopher who transformed from nearly dying at 23 to building an 18-year long marriage through radical inner work.
In this episode, Diego explains how you can actually build the foundations that transform everything else in your life; from romantic relationships to business success.
Keep reading to learn these wisdoms for yourself…
→ WATCH THE FULL EPISODE HERE:
MEDITATION, RELATIONSHIPS & HEALING
→ Observe, Accept, Release, Transform
The four-step healing process that works for both childhood trauma and daily stress.
You can't change what you won't acknowledge, so stop fighting your past because you're quite literally fighting yourself.
"I knew that I was very actively running away from myself. Whenever I would feel some type of tension or sadness in the mind, I would wanna just roll up a joint, or I wanna be with friends or keep staying out later and later."
→ Fight to Understand, Not Win
When you try to dominate every argument, you've already lost the relationship. When your partner instead feels genuinely seen and heard, that need to always be right diminishes.
For both parties, potential arguments then instead become a matter of healthy discussion and compromise.
→ Learn to Live Alone
If you can't handle being alone with your thoughts for twenty minutes, you're bringing that insecurity and chaos into every relationship in your life.
Practice taking walks without listening to something. To be at home alone without music blaring and without constantly reaching for your phone or any other distraction.
"When you can be with yourself alone, that means the next time you're around someone you care about, you have a much more fortified sense of presence to give to another person."
→ Keep Your Private World Sacred
Don’t share more than what’s necessary of your life online. In the end, your life belongs to you, your friends and your actual loved ones.
Instead, focus on the smaller orbit around you, rather than the Universe about which you’re already spinning.
You're busier than ever but feel emptier inside.
Every quiet moment gets filled with noise. Every uncomfortable emotion numbed by easily obtainable dopamine and distraction.
To be able to sit with yourself; your emotions and your hardships, is then to be able to take care of someone else’s.
Later next week, we’ll be sending a deep dive into everything that was covered in more detail to ensure you don’t miss any value from your watching.
Until the next one, keep crushing it,
Uncle Mike & The THRST Team 👋
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